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There are three main categories of advice:

  1. Dating

  2. Relationships

  3. Sex

If you don't find an answer to your problem in these columns, ask Doctor Love your own question!

17 Year Old Who's Into Sado-Masochism (SM)

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Hi, I am a 17 year old male and i have been having SM fantasies ever since I was seven. I am capable of enjoying regular sex but i greatly prefer BDSM. I play the dominant role in this type of encounter. Some say that partners switch roles from time to time but i would hate to be submissive. Anyway, I was wondering whether or not I was born with this sexuality or if it was created by some past experience.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

The types of relationships we form as adults, including the sexual relationships we establish, are directly related to our earliest experiences with mom and dad. If our first relationships were loving, then we seek out loving and mutual adult sexual relationships.

But, what if our first relationships were less than ideal?

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61 and Horny as Hell


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Dear Dr. Love,

I have been married for forty years. Sex was poor twenty years ago. ten years ago it stopped entirely. We have a good marriage and she is my best friend. But I am very lonely. She loves me but is asexual. I could understand an affair. but she truly does not have ANY desire. I am 61 healthy and pardon the expression horny. your advice would be appreciated.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are in a tight spot--no pun intended.

The problem here is that you have had a poor sex life for decades. And the longer a pattern continues, the harder it is to break.

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A Hairy Situation


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Hello Dr. Love,

First of all let me express my congratulations for the articles on this site, they are all very interesting and helpful. But this is not the main reason why I write to you.

I have something to ask you which is a bit or might be unusual to ask. . . how should I put it. . . i have been for sometime with someone, a girl that I get along quite well with and I think soon enough we will come up to that moment when we are going to know each other better and make love.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I understand your fear of humiliation. In reality, there is no such thing as pubic hair fashion for men. You may have the idea that men are expected to shave their pubic hair because you some women shave theirs. Pubic hair fashion trends don't extend to men.

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A Little Worried. . .

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, we have sex a few times a week and when we started having sex we were very protective. He would wear a condom ALWAYS and I would be on the pill.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You both are very responsible and should be commended.

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A Man in a Seemingly Cumbersome Situation

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Dear Dr. Love,

I, first off, would like to applaud you for the wonderful service that you are providing to people that, may otherwise, be unable to find someone or be unable to afford the services that you are providing.

In doing some research, I happened to stumble upon your site and was astonished to find that someone is actually trying to help people and doing it for free. Thank you for all your time and effort.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

Thank you very much for your words of appreciation. You have understood my intentions exactly. I created this site in order to make therapy available to people who don't have access, for various reasons.

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A Sad Man


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Dear Dr. Love,
I am a 38 year old, single male. I was violently raped by two men when I was 14 years old. It was such a traumatic event that I have never been able to make love to a woman for fear of inflicting the same pain and torment. I have given up on having a relationship in my lifetime. I hope you have may still have hope for me. Can you please advise me?

Thank you,
A sad man

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are not only sad you are traumatized. What you went through was such a horrific nightmare, I can't begin to imagine.

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A Strange Problem


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Hi Doctor,

I want to tell you one of my problem. I am married and mother of a child. A year back i got married. The problem is that my husband has turned lovemaking into rape. He hardly caresses or gives foreplay.

What he does is take off my cloths and intercourse after five six kisses. I am getting upset and want to get rid of this nonsense and humilation.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You have asked me to help you rid your life of this nonsense and humiliation. Keep in mind that even if we curtail his behavior, the emotional conflict that has triggered his actions will remain unresolved. This means that he will continue to press you for these rape sessions, which will fuel greater resentment in you or he will sit on his urges and resent you for 'depriving' him.

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Addicted to Oral Sex


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Yes, my husband and I have been married for 14 years and our sex life is great, but and yes there is a but, I like for him to go down on me. He has done it maybe 4 time in 14 years.

He said that it is something that he could do without. I told him I like it and need it like a drug addict needs a fix. and that i felt that both of us should do whatever the other wants us too, to fulfill each other.

He said he would start doing it more often if I would make it taste like something good to eat. Any suggestions?

Start of Dr Love's Answer

What does he like to eat? Chocolate syrup or honey could easily do the trick! Even some Miracle Whip should whip him into action, if he likes the taste of whipped cream.

You could make the application of the food part of your foreplay and then let him chow down and I do mean that literally.

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Afraid to be Intimate

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Dear Dr. Love,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years since I was 15. Unfortunately my first sexual experience was forced on me by an older close friend of mine after my 18th birthday.

Since then my boyfriend and I have had trouble getting physically close because I was afraid of being hurt again. Because of that he rejected me out of heartbreak and frustration and I started seeing someone at my old work.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

What a rough ride you have had so far. Both you and your boyfriend have been so traumatized that you are scared sick and he is scared 'unstiff.'

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All Messed Up


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You may think I'm rather'messed up' with these questions, but here it goes.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You aren't all messed up at all. But, believing that you are is really messing up your head--and I do mean your little head. In other words, worrying about whether there is something wrong with you, is enough to blow your entire show.

 

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