February 2007

First my english isn't that good, so sorry

Here's my story. I loved a guy in my faculty so much we were in deep love. . . I believed so. . it was so true. . . I never loved or thought I could love someone as I loved him.

We dated for a year. . . but for the last 2 months we began to fight a lot and it ways always over small things.

But it didn't change me or my love. But for him, he changed a lot and became so strange not like before. . . (well as you see that was his excuse for why he stopped feeling anything towards me.

My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 2 years.

He has two daughters over 20 and I have two sons over 20.

We plan to marry as soon as my youngest son graduates from college in 2 years. We both will be in a better financial position to finally move in together.

A concern I have is that he 'constantly' asks me if I love him and I tell him that I do. He asks me every day if I love him even if I begin the day or any conversation with, 'I love you'. What might I not be doing to convince him that I love him?

My husband had very little sexual experience prior to our marriage 2 years ago.

I was married previously with a healthy sexual relationship.

We are in our 40's.

Before my husband and I were married in 2003, we discussed sex. We are both Christian and wanted to abstain until we were married. He did tell me that he hoped I would teach him. Can you direct me to some books or articles which could help me show him how to be more verbal and to help me teach him some technique?

Thank you for any ideas.

Hello Dr. ,

I did reconnect with my childhood sweetheart from over 25 years ago. We have gone on a few dates. I agree with your paradigm that we often tend to heal childhood wounds through present relationships.

I am a textbook example. I am aware that I only desired a romantic relationship with this ex as one way to heal the broken ties with my now deceased father. The ex lives with a lady. He has expressed that he would like to have an 'affair' with me.