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Younger Guy in Love with Mature Lady

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Hi, I'm in love with an older lady. She is 40 and I'm 20. We both work together at Wal-Mart. She just told me a couple of days ago she is filing for a divorce with her husband because he hit her for the second time in their marriage. Every time I see her I feel so good and we always flirt back and forth. What do I do? I don't talk to her outside of work. Do I just ask for her number or what? Please help me.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

Why don't you just tell her exactly what you told me. That each time you see her you feel so good. You enjoy her company and want to know her better. Then ask her if it would be all right if you called her.

She is giving you all kinds of green lights. Flirting with you is a sign that she's interested. This is already a done deal! So relax and speak your heart.

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She Loves You as a Friend

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I had been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, we had a great relationship, we never fought and everything was going perfect, she had even talked about marriage in the past.

A couple months ago, while laying in bed, she revealed to me, that she was moving, (about 1500 miles away), it was at this same time that she told me that her sister was pregnant, and since she was moving to that area, I figured that was the reason. I didn't like it, but we both agreed that we would stay together and that a long distance relationship would be fine until she came back.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I am sorry to hear what's happening to you. It is so heartbreaking to have a relationship end when you still love the other person. The problem here is that it seems like her mind is made up.

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Suffering for My Son's Bad Behavior

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Dr. Love

Im engaged to a wonderful man with a 7 year old. I have a 15 year old . my son is being rebellious and has betrayed my fiances trust on several occasions. we set a wedding date . Its in 4 months.

Because of my sons bad behavior , my fiance has postponed the wedding for 2 years. my son will be 18. I plan to stay with him and his son through thick and thin. I told him its now or never. A relationship is suppose to be through thick and thin.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

What a painful situation. I understand that you experience your fiancee's postponement of the wedding as a punishment for your son's misbehavior. The fact that he made a one-sided decision to postpone, rather than discussing the problem with you and coming up with a mutually acceptable solution, leaves you feeling all the more punished.

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What Did I Miss?

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I met a man about 3 years ago. We fell madly in love and got married after 1 year. We both had children from a prior marriage. He never really had a relationship with his children because they lived in a different state.

When we got married not long after he started to frequent the bars alot, wouldn't come home after work and shortly 6 months after marriage quit his job after 20 years, and decided he was moving out of state to live in the same state as his children and was getting a divorce from me.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

What a nightmare you've been through! I think that you're asking me what you missed in order to protect yourself from making a similar mistake in the future. That's what we'll work on.

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You're Being Evicted from Your House

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Dear Dr. Love,

I'm 47 years old, have been married for 17 years and have a 10 year old child. My wife and I have had marital problems for several years and have been to a multitude of therapists. We finally went to see a priest and he suggested that we separate.

Of course she gets to stay in the house and have the child. I am dead set against this idea because I feel like I am being punished. I also worry that not having a good support network I will become depressed more than I am.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I can see why you're upset. From where I sit, it seems like you're getting blamed for all the marital problems. Your wife, her shrink, and the priest have decided that you are the anti-Christ and that you should be exiled from the land.

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She Gets Worried When it Comes to Having Sex

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Me and my wife recently went through a divorce. Since then she came to me and wanted to try it again.

Things have never been better but when it comes to sex she gets worried and wont do it with me just yet. How can I make her come around sooner. Its been 3 months now and I want to share all of her.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

If you read over your letter, you will see that the entire focus is on getting your wife to come around--in other words to change her behavior so that she gives in to sex. But, her behavior won\'t change until you understand and resolve the thoughts and feelings that are causing her behavior (avoiding sex).

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Needing Help Dealing with Boyfriend's Relationship With His Ex

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My 50 year old boyfriend has been living apart from his wife for 5 years, with visits approx. once a month (maybe more) with no sexual contact. We met 6 months ago, and have a great relationship in every way.

He agreed to get a divorce since he had been wanting to anyway. He told her about our relationship last month and stated he wanted a divorce. She panicked and has been trying to get him to change his mind. He is standing firm because he doesn't want to lose me. He went down last week (she lives in CA, we live in OR) to see her.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

For the time being you need to stop focusing on devising behavioral strategies to 'fix' the problem and work at understanding the feelings surrounding this issue. If you focus on understanding the feelings that are causing his stuckness and work those through, you will have a better chance of achieving a resolution to the issue.

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Frantic

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This story is one that is very long and somewhat strange. The girl that holds my heart completely is one that I have a relationship with for over 10 years now. Mind you, this isnt your ordinary relationship. We met at a family reunion probably when I was around 12 or so she was my grandmothers sisters adopted daughter.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I totally understand why you are frantic. It feels like you are finally being given a chance to be with the love of your life--she is practically free--and, now she is sending you red lights.

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Woman Who is Afraid to End Up Like Her Mother

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My number one goal in my relationships with men is to not end up like my mother. After divorcing my father, who cheated on her constantly (and in front of me), had kids from 4 different marriages, spent all of the money and was physically, verbally and emotionally abusive, she then chose to have weak, spineless types around for the rest of my childhood and early adulthood.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

Two issues pervade your question: the fear that you will end up just like your mother and the feeling of pain and torment that you ended the three week relationship and wonder if you did the right thing.

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Woman Who is Being Starved for Affection

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Dear Dr. Love:

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and we have a one year old daughter. He had promised we would get married if I gave her his last name. He pouted and did'nt come to the hospital for two days until I signed the paperwork with his last name. I know your going to say get out of the relationship, like everyone else does! I do love him and I of course love my daughter very much but I don't think he feels the same.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are being so terribly mistreated and yet it sounds as though you think you have done something to deserve what you are receiving. I don't care what you have said or done, you don't deserve to be treated as you are. When I read the description of your married life, I obtained a glimpse of you in your first family.

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