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I Thought He Loved Being with Me

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During the first weeks of September, I met this guy. He works next to my company and we don't live far from each other. After 2 weeks we became friends but I started to develop love for him and it was so strong.

On the 13th of September, I called him and I wanted to tell him but I didn't. Saturday he called me to come to his flat and I did and I discovered that he does love me too. On Sunday we made love with protection.


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No wonder you're confused!

This guy came on really strong in the beginning. He wanted you to come over every day, and when you didn't come he pursued you.

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How to Love a Husband Who Cheated After 24 Years

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How can I love a husband who cheated after 24 years?

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You have a long road ahead of you both! Beware of the temptation to think that your real problem is the fact that he cheated. Cheating is a symptom that something is deeply wrong with the marriage. In all cases, cheating is an act of aggression against the person upon whom you are cheating. The cheater is saying 'screw you' via his unfaithful behavior.

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He Wants to Be Friends

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I have been a relationship with a man for the last 11 months everything has been real good and I mean real good. All of a sudden he tells me that we need to slow things down and not see each other as much.

My family and his spent the holidays together, or birthdays. I think that he is scared of the closeness that we have now. He says that we need to be just friends, I don't know if I can just be friends with him because I'm in love with him, want to be with him as a couple not as his friend.


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I think your assessment that this man is scared of closeness is dead on. Y

ou have two ways to handle this situation. I would say that both approaches would be appropriate. Depending upon what feels best for you as well as what you think would work best for him, you can choose either of the two approaches or a combination of both.

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I Want This Relationship More Than Anything in the World

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I have been with this guy for 1 year yesterday. Throughout this year he's has broken up with me at least 4 times. After every time he breaks up with me we always get back together because I beg him and I say things will change.

To give you a little bit about me. . . . I was in a serious relationship 4 years ago with a guy that I knew since I was 16. We dated for 2 1/2 years until I caught him with another girl.

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You wrote that your boyfriend has broken up with you four times in the past year. That's a lot of break ups!

I think that your repeated badgering to get him to tell you that he loves you is a symptom that you're terrified that he's going to break up with you again.

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Wondering What to Say and What to Do

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A very important question I have been talking to my friend for some time now and I feel like he is leading me on because he's always talking about how he wants to be with me and then when I make that next move he'll say we are rushing things.

I just feel like he is leading me on and I really want to be with him. Please tell me what to say to and what to do.

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It's clear to me that the man you're interested in has mixed feelings about becoming close to another person. At times he gives you the green light and tells you that he wants you, then when you come toward him, to close the deal, so to speak, he closes the door in your face.

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Your Fiance Cheated and Now the Other Woman's Pregnant

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Dear Dr. Love,

I hope I can speak to you and get some great advice as I have read on your columns. I am going through a stage in my life where I need help. My finance and had been together 5 1/2 years. He proposed 7 months ago. We were getting married and had planned a big wedding reception.

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What a devastating experience for you. Your question to me is how can you make a decision when you are still so hurt. I think you can't, not just yet.

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Am I Missing Something?

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Dear Dr. Love:

I recently separated and am in the process of divorce from my wife. We have separated for a while and during that time I met a fantastic young woman. Young as she is 23 and I am 33. We began dating in November and soon she started throwing out the love thing and marriage.

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If I read your letter correctly, it sounds like this woman backed off and then broke up with you when you didn't immediately agree to marry her. I do smell a rat!

For one thing, I have to be suspicious about why she was in such an all fire hurry about getting married. The relationship was very new and she was pushing for commitment far too early in the game.

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She's Pregnant with Your Kid

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I been going out with a girl for 5 years off and on. She's a about a month pregnant with my kid. for the last couple months she been acting like a complete bitch. I try to talk to her about it but she don't want to listen.

Also i'm going to iraq for 8 months. I get this funny feeling that i want to leave her, but she's pregnant with my kid. It's weird she completly changed. We hardly ever talk on the phone anymore. She recently lost some close relatives. To make things worse she lives in Hawaii and i'm stationed in California.

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I hear how fed up you are with your girlfriend's behavior. The last thing you want to do is act upon your annoyance by dumping her. There's a baby involved and that child needs a mother and father.

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How to Become Less Sensitive

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When my boyfriend and I are discussing something, he can be very contradictory and defensive in his tone and his argument. This intimidates me from voicing my opinion or sharing things about my life. Often when I do he abruptly changes the subject. Often the conversations are only about him.

I told him the defensive tone bugs me and why it does. He responded first by saying that all his ex's have said the same thing, and that he would try to change but he is sick of trying and that he thought it would get better.

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You told me that because you know that your boyfriend doesn't mean to hurt you, you want to become less sensitive to his contradictory manner and defensive tone of voice. If someone accidentally shoots you with bullets, do the bullets hurt you less because they were shot in error?

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How to Stop Feeling Worthless

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I don't know what I could be doing wrong. I'm 21 years old, graduating from college in May with honors, involved in everything, have a great heart, I'm easy to talk to and I think I'm a really good person. The last time I had a relationship I was 16 and, let's face it, that doesn't count.


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I totally get how hard it is to feel good about yourself when you are being rejected. The problem is that I am afraid that you are stuck in a vicious cycle. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you send out vibes that tell men you aren't worth being with.

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