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Confused as Hell

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Start of a question about Dating
Hey Doc, I am a 29 year old male with no kids who is and has been interested in a 28 year old female with four kids. We started flirting around September 2009 but it never really went past friendship.

Start of Dr Love's Answer
If we are to believe what this woman has told you, then the reason she went with the other man is because she wants to be pursued. The guy who won her is the one who came on strong. On the other hand, from what she's told you, she seems to prefer you.
 

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Desperate for Advice

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Start of a question about Relationships

Hi, I am 20 yrs old, female, and have just broken up with my first love.

We dated for just over a year and have been best friends for 5. We are both engineering students, and our school life is very demanding. We started to see less and less of each other because of school.

As things were getting complicated, he found out that he got a 16 month job placement out of town.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are having a very rough time.

Your ex hasn't treated you properly at all! Pawing that other woman right under your nose was most cruel and insensitive.

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Anniversary Gift Gone Wrong

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Start of a question about Relationships

Hi.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and a couple of months ago I gave him a gift. I gave him my permission to sleep with someone else one time.

It ended up happening with one of my old friends from high school but it went wrong. When I say wrong I don't mean he messed it up or she didn't want to do it. They did sleep together, but I recently found out they didn't use protection. She kissed him when I left the room before anything started and without my permission.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

Yours is a very painful story. I'm afraid that there is no turning back for you. What's done is done and the feelings that have arisen as a result of what occurred can't be erased.

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He's a Sex Addict

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Start of a question about Sex

My husband and I have been married a year and a half. We have been together for 5 years. he seems to feel that sex is the answer to everything.

When I come home from work after working 12 hours he wants sex. If I'm depressed, he thinks sex can cure everything. He claims he is never too tired. He pouts when I tell him I'm not in the mood.

Start of Dr Love's Answer
The problem here is that your husband has a very infantile, orally fixated personality. This type of disturbance is caused by his having been either emotionally starved as a young child and/or overindulged. The end result in both cases is a person who is a bottomless pit of need. His need is so huge that no amount of feeding satisfies him. This explains

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He Whispered I Love You and You're Pissed

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Start of a question about Relationships

Dear Dr. Love,

Last night I got pissed at my boyfriend Mikal. He whispered I love you and I was like, what? I did that so he would say it louder. And then he says nothing and I'm like, what? again. And I said did you say I love you? and he said yeah! and I'm like why did you say it so low for? is it cuz your friends are here? and he said yeah cuz they're here.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You asked me to explain what's up with Mikal. First let's understand your feelings. You're aware of being angry that Mikal doesn't have the nerve to say that he loves you loud enough for all to hear. I think that the real feeling that you have--beneath the anger--is hurt.

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Should I Throw in the Towel

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Start of a question about Relationships

Dear Dr. Love: Great site. I'm not really sure how to put this and I know the chances of you picking my question are slim. Perhaps it will help me just to write it down and send it into cyberspace.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are in a power struggle with a guy who is shell shocked. Keep in mind that when you say you love him, you are actually making a request. You are looking for him to say he loves you back. In other words, you statement isn't a free gift at all and he feels that and freezes up. I don't know if he's freezing up because he has issues about being controlled.

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He's Friendly with His Ex-Girlfriends

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Start of a question about Relationships

Dear Dr Love I hope you can help.

I've been seeing a man for a little over a year. We are very much in love and both agree nothing like this has ever happened to us before. We are both in our 30s and have bought a house together and plan to get married. He has two previous long term relationships (8 years and 5 years) and is on friendly terms with both women. I have one previous relationship which I ended and we have no contact.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

Yes you are feeling jealous, but no one can pass judgment on your feelings and say that you are being unreasonable. Feelings are irrational, not wrong or right, unreasonable or reasonable. They simply need to be accepted for what they are. At times you may choose to not act on certain feelings because doing so would not be in your best interest, but you can't try to eliminate what you feel.

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