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Kind of Jealous

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Hi Doc

how are you? I hope you're doing fine. It's so good to see a free website online that has a lot to offer and to meet such a knowledgeable person as yourself!

Let me introduce myself. My name is khaledah. I am 21 yrs. old and have been married for 1 year. I love my husband a lot. I'ts just these last few months have been hard for us because I think this is where the hard part of the first year comes in.

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I am so glad that you appreciate the 'free' advice columns that I offer. You may have noticed that I haven't been updating my advice column and weekly sex questions for many weeks now.

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Friend or Girlfriend

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Ok, I'm 16 and a guy. I'm in love with my best friend (she's a girl). I love her so much. I think about her everyday. We wanted to date a few years ago but she is best friends with my sister too. We didn't want to hurt my sis, so we never dated. A few years later, I'm still in love with her.

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It's clear that you want a romantic attachment with this woman and not a simple friendship. It's also clear that you don't want to 'move on.' I also heard you say that she doesn't want more than friendship with you.

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How Can I Make Him Realize What He's Doing to Me?

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How can i make my husband realize what he is doing to me. He is very controlling and and very jealous.

He never puts me first in our relationship. He has never hit me but he talks to me like I'm nothing sometimes. How can i stick up for myself, and let him now I'm serious, and it isn't a joke. I feel like he doesn't love me any more.

We have been together for 7 years and been married 3 years. I can't give my thoughts on anything to him. It seems it doesn't even matter to him. Please give me feedback. Thank you.

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I hear how desperate you are.

Basically, your husband is wiping his boots on you. When you balk he tells you that he could care less about how you feel. You are being abused.

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How Can I Know That He Still Likes Me?

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Hello Dr. Love!

I really have a problem.

You see I developed a crush 6 months ago, then as the days passed I noticed that he liked me too. . . On May 16th, 2007, 11:00 AM. , he asked for advice from me. He said he wants to tell his crush that he's fallen deeply in love with her. I told him to tell her by letter.

Our communication at that time was writing each other even though we live near each other. . . So he did that. I was shocked when I knew that I was the one he is talking about. Because of my shock, I accidentally rejected him. I didn't mean to do that.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

The biggest problem in this relationship is that you both aren't being direct enough with each other. I sense that each of you has felt afraid of admitting your love and risking being rejected.

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He's Chatting Online

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HI, My boyfriend and I are very happy, just one problem: He chats with other girls in chat rooms, emails them etc, , but says he has no intention of meeting them.

I've told him that if he's honest I don't mind, but really I think I do. . . I'm not sure what to do. . . I know he loves me, there's no doubt about that. .

Can you give me any advice? Thanks

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I understand you're upset. It feels like he's flirting with other girls. The good news is he isn't hiding it from you, which reinforces what he says, that he truly has no intention of meeting them.

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He Refused to Date Me

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There is this guy John who I am in love with but recently he told me he won't date me. . . ever. . . Needless to say it broke my heart now I want revenge.

I was thinking about going after his best friend and that would make him jealous but I don't like his friend. . . at all. So I want to hurt him the way he hurt me but I don't really want to hurt him because I still love him. . . I am deeply depressed over this. . . What should I do. . . I feel like if I can't have him then I don't want anyone else. . . and he isn't even that great. . .


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You have been terribly wounded and your hurt has turned into rage.

Now you want to act on the rage by getting revenge. I know you think that acting out your anger will help, but it won't. Above all you must behave in a way that you can be proud of, no matter how angry or hurt you are.

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He's Issued an Ultimatum

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Hi Dr. Love.

I am a college female and I am desperate for advice. I am in a two-year relationship with someone that I love so much, but when he does something wrong I let him get away with it after staying mad for a day or so.

However, I only did one thing wrong by not trusting him and he wanted to break up until I begged him not to. He set down rules such as I cannot look at his cell phone or ask where and with whom he goes on the weekends.

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First thing, no decisions should be made in the heat of anger. Second, let's talk about what you call your habit of letting him get away with doing something wrong. What exactly does this mean? Do you mean that you don't lay down rules like he does? Does it mean that you act out your anger rather than tell him in words what he's said or done that you don't like?

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I Forgot He'd Asked Me Out

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Well Dr. Love.

Two months ago a guy asked me to be his girlfriend. But then I said I needed a little more time to think. After a one month vacation, I forgot that he asked me to became his girlfriend, and after that I went to the place we always hang-out.

Suddenly, I noticed that he didn't give me attention anymore. Then I asked him by e-mail, he said he isn't mad at me. But earlier when I went to our hang-out place I noticed that he always gave more attention to my other best friend (girl). He used to do everything for me. I'm the one who is doing now.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

He said that he isn't mad at you. He felt hurt and humiliated. When you 'forgot' that he asked you out, your behavior said that he isn't important enough to you to even remember his interest.

He got the message and pulled away. I think that this guy really likes you and that he's giving his attention to your girlfriend in an attempt to make you jealous.

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Relationship Jealousy

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Hello,

The question I have is regarding jealousy in a relationship. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 26. Our relationship was amazing in the beginning. We both shared the same goals, values, and interests. We both have no children and have never been married but we want to get married and have kids together and soon; however, he tends to be more and more jealous and possessive as time goes on.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

If you've been reading my columns for a while or you've read my book, you know that all relationship woes can be traced to unhealed childhood wounds. In the case of your boyfriend's jealousy, I am sure that he suffered some type of abandonment in his childhood.

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Rough Time

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Hi

My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and broke up for 3 years. We recently got back together and it's been terrific the past 3 months.

Just recently the conversation came up about a certain girl being back in town. She's the one who was partly behind why we broke up. All the past happenings and hurts came up again and since then things have been very rough between us, like a wall dredged up in front of us. I've told him I'm not going anywhere and all my feelings in detail, but what choices do we make now for the future.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You asked me if you should be ending the relationship because you can't change what happened in the past. The questions you asked me aren't the ones that need to be asked.

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