Home ›

Sibling Issues

Drug Addiction and Mental Illness

in

Start of a question about Relationships

Dearest Dr. Turndorf,

I hope that you are doing well and that you are in good health. Thank you kindly for all the help that you provide to those who are in need. It is deeply appreciated.

Please help me. I need to ask you questions that I desperately need answers for. My name is Lara, I hope that you remember me. . . My father was very abusive verbally, psychologically and physically with my mother and my brother and sisters. He traumatized us and I fear that the damage is permanent and will destroy my whole family.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I am so sorry to hear about the ongoing problems that you are having with your family. The aftershocks of your father 's abusive behavior just keep on coming!

Read More

Friend or Girlfriend

in

Start of a question about Dating

Ok, I'm 16 and a guy. I'm in love with my best friend (she's a girl). I love her so much. I think about her everyday. We wanted to date a few years ago but she is best friends with my sister too. We didn't want to hurt my sis, so we never dated. A few years later, I'm still in love with her.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

It's clear that you want a romantic attachment with this woman and not a simple friendship. It's also clear that you don't want to 'move on.' I also heard you say that she doesn't want more than friendship with you.

Read More

Is Anything Wrong with Me or Him

in

Start of a question about Sex

Hi Dr. Love,

I love your responses to the columns and I wish there were more persons like you who would do this type of job as good as you do.don't know where to start since this is really hard for me.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

What's wrong here is that you allow yourself to be mistreated again and again.

I notice that your entire life with him revolves around fooling yourself into believing that this time it's going to better or different. But a leopard never changes his spots. This man isn't capable of fidelity or commitment.

Read More

A Friend Who Judges Me

in

Start of a question about Relationships

Dearest Dr. Love, I truly hope that you are well and happy. You deserve it. You touch so many with your advice and your kind words. Thank you kindly. I would be grateful if you could please help me. . .

I feel very confused, hurt and betrayed. I have been friends with a young man ever since I was 15 years old (I am now 24) and he is someone I truly care about, like a brother. I thought I could confide in him and that he would support me and try to understand whatever decisions I make.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

The kind words you shared with me in your letter tell me what a giving and loving person you are. I see such a contrast between how you treat me and how you are treated by others. You should be receiving from others the same loving treatment that you give to me.

Read More

He Wants to Sleep with Your Sister

in

Start of a question about Relationships

Dr.Love,

I've been with my partner for 6 years (common-law) and then about 4 months ago he told me he likes my sister. He says it's all mens fantasies to be with two sisters. I don't believe him. To me that's sick.

He says he doesn't want to be with her as a couple but just to check her out in bed. I was so distraught on hearing that. Meanwhile he bad mouths her on her life and everything. I think he is physically attracted to her and wants to be with her.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

What an incredible betrayal! The confusion that you feel is a defense mechanism that your psyche has created to protect you and him from the massive rage that you feel.

I must tell you that it isn't reasonable to expect that he would be only attracted to you. Love doesn't make a man blind! But, you can expect that he keep his feelings of attraction to himself!

Read More

In Love With Your Brother 's Best Friend

in

Start of a question about Dating

Dear Dr. Love,

Well, my issue of concern is how i go about handling my strong feelings for this guy. Normally i am an up front person but in the case i can't be. The reason is that the guy that i have feelings for is one of my older (only by 18 months) brother 's best friends. And my brother is also one of my best friends, and i am extremely in love with this guy.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You say that are crossing a line that could be dangerous. It's not clear what line you think you are crossing and what you believe the danger to be if you cross that line. Your fear sounds vague and beyond your conscious grasp.

Read More

In Love

in

Start of a question about Relationships

Dear Dr. Love, I am completely in love with a dear friend of mine. We have some much in common, that it is unbelievable.

No one knows how I feel about him. At times I wish I could tell everyone including my dear sister who is also good friends with him, and not to mention that she is trying to fix him up with some of her single friends. Everytime I hear her say that he would make a good couple with 'so and so'. . . it just hurts so bad.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I admire your guts. In answer to your question, how can you reveal your feelings for him, there is no particular formula. Just say what you feel, straight from the heart.

Read More

Woman Who Was Raped by Her Sister's Boyfriend

in

Start of a question about Relationships

Hi Dr. Turndorf!

A month ago I was raped by my sister's boyfriend. My boyfriend of 3 years seemed to be handling it ok, and I was coping.

However, we have begun having many problems since then: he wants me to open up and talk to him, but when I do, he gets angry. And then he interperets my silence as being angry at him. He doesn't understand my feelings of guilt and told me that I must really like being the victim because I refuse to move on with my life. He tries to listen, but he can't handle my messed up emotions.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. Not only is a rape'murder'on a relationship, it is downright murder on you.

Read More

Competing Twin

in

Start of a question about Dating

Dear Dr. Love. I am in a bit of a dilemma.

You see, my 23 yr old twin sister and I both really, really like the same man who is part of our new circle of friends. Being twins we are really close, but due to this problem we have started competing for his attention and the sibling rivalry and bickering has started!


Start of Dr Love's Answer

This is my first 'twin' question, and I thank you for bringing this question to me.

Read More

Alone at Home

in

Start of a question about Relationships

My wife and I are temporally separated. I did a pretty stupid thing, wrote anonymous email to her sister's boyfriend about him cheating on her sister. I know the emails were wrong to do, but I have been under a lot of stress from everything, like personal things to work stuff.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

First you need to understand why you did what you did.

On some level you had to know that it would get back to your wife that you made false accusations about her sister's boyfriend. You need to soul search now and understand why you wrote that letter. How were you hoping that your wife would react when she found out? Were you hoping to pick a fight with her?

Read More

Syndicate content