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A Loving Hubby and an Embarrassed Son

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I have a serious problem, I am a 41 year old mother/wife in a very loving realtionship. My only problem is that my husband has become very touchy lately, which I'm in love with, he is always touching and rubbing me pinching my butt putting his hands up my skirt, pulling on my thong straps, licking my cleavage, which is all great stuff. Except he does it in front of my son and his friends which embarasses my son.

What should i do about my very loving hubby and my embarrased son.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are in touchy spot! A horny hubby and a bashful boy is an explosive combination. You don't want to deflate your husband, but to allow him to continue is to torment your boy.

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Ms. Hesitant

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I need your help!!! I need someone elses insight- other than my own. . . .

I am dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now, and we have been living together for almost four months. I am totally comfortable and happy with our relationship except for one thing. He has this female friend who always seems to pop up. He said nothing has ever happened between them physically, and they are just friends. He deals with music and he helps her post her music on the web, etc.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You are falling into a dangerous trap that consists of trying to mind 'f***' yourself out of your feelings. You don't like his being so often alone with a woman who is seductive with him. You feel threatened by his behavior and worried that you may be cheated on. Trying to talk yourself out of your feelings is a self-violation.

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Just Found Out That Your Husband is Cheating

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I just found out last night that my husband of 10 years has been seeing a woman for the past 18 months.

I knew about her since 1999, but I was convinced she was only a friend. He won't admit to me that he's seeing her. I found out last night when I called his voice mail and listened to the message she had left.

We have 4 children and I don't know what to do.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I am sorry that you have received such a blow. The first thing you need to know about an affair is that the partner who cheats is indirectly expressing a great deal of anger toward his/her spouse. Your husband 's behavior is no exception. Instead of speaking about what has angered him, your husband has resorted to enacting his anger by giving you this emotional blow.

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Woman Who Doesn't Want to Mess Up Her Relationship

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i am 33 and have been living with a man for 5 years.

at first life was great he made me feel like a queen, the love making was good and constant at least three times a week. but now he has pulled away from me and we only have sex maybe twice a month. he said it was because he is getting old but i do not buy into this.

i am the type of person that loves to be held, kissed, hugged, i like to hold hands. but it seems that all the touching now is when i roll over in bed and mistakenly touch his leg or hand than i proceed to say i am sorry.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

It's great that your boyfriend is willing to get help. You have a working relationship. Now you need to know where to start. I am going to give you that gift.

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Girl in Chronic Pain

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I am 17, I have several soft tissue diseases and the chronic pain that I have to endure everyday is tough on my boyfriend. He is empathetic, but not sure how to deal with it when I'm am pain.

It is a strain on our relationship and I don't want to start feeling as if I'm a burden, like I used to when I first started having the problems. He has helped me through so much in the past year, but it is getting harder on him, I know.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You have been on my mind ever since I read your letter. My e-mail program in box is so overloaded with mail that I have had to spend literally hours searching through all my letters in order to be able to find yours again. That's how much you touched me.

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Wondering What to Do About a Former Friendship Gone Sour

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My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We have been close friends with another couple for 13 years. Over the past two years my husband 's hobbies and mine have caused us to drift apart. We used to be comfortable with each other going our own way on a regular basis. But, now it seems we never spend time together. Due to my time spent away from my husband, he and the wife of our long-time friends, spent a great deal of time together, causing harm to our marriage.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You and your husband are locked in what sounds like a theoretical debate about what is the proper way to handle this mess. In actuality, the real issue isn't about what should or shouldn't be done, it's about how you feel regarding his decision to speak with this couple.

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He Wants Me Back After Having Cheated

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Dear Dr. Love I am 19 years old and I have been married for a year.

My husband joined the navy in Dec of 1999 after telling me that he cheated on me 3 weeks after we were married. I left him in Feb of 2000 and now he is calling me begging me to come back to him.

I love my husband with all my heart but I am scared he will do it again. How do I learn to trust him again while dealing with military life? He is my world and I would do anything for him, but I just can't deal with pain like that ever again.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You have good reason to worry.

What makes him so sure that he won't cheat again? Bottom line, when a partner cheats he is communicating angry feelings. The cheating behavior basically says, I am mad at you, so I am going to do something that will pay you back.

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Wallet Snooper

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My man gets very irritated with me when I look through his wallet. I think it is rather normal for me to take a look at what is in his wallet every 5 days or so.

I have done this with every guy I have dated for some period of time. We have been dating for over a year now, and are currently living together, and also engaged. Am I wrong to be looking in his wallet?

Start of Dr Love's Answer

While you may think that it is 'normal' to examine the contents of your man's wallet, the bottom line is that he feels invaded by the act.

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Too Young For Kissing

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Dear Dr. Love,

Boy, do I have a big problem.

My six year old little boy has recently developed his first crush which led to his first kiss.

My husband and I thought it was very cute, but also sat down with him and told him to save his kisses for people he really loves. Since the little girl is a regular playmate I also spoke to her mother and we agreed to try and curb the kissing between the two.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

There is no such thing as a wrong or right feelings. Feelings simply are what they are.

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Cupid's Arrow Finally Struck

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I'm a 20 year old male, who will be a junior in college. When I was a junior in high-school, this freshman girl caught my eye. For some reason it seemed like I knew her from somewhere but I didn't. I saw her a few more times until finally cupid's arrow struck. I became overwhelmed with feelings for this girl although I had no clue who she was or what she was like.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

They say lightning doesn't strike twice, but in your case, it has. How lucky can you get!

You asked me if you should pursue this woman even though she is with someone, and you also asked if you should tell her about your crush.

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