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I'm Not Willing to Share Him

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It's been 2 weeks since I wrote a letter telling a man how I felt about him. I told him that I cared about him, but I cannot let my feelings get 2 involved because I know that he has begun to see another woman; he was not in the beginning. I told him that I was upset because I thought that we were working toward something special.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You asked me to explain this man's behavior to you. Before I do, I have to tell you that I felt so sad for you when you wondered if he started seeing someone else because he discovered things about you that he didn't like.

My goodness. It's obvious that you are a wonderful woman. Your only flaw is that your self-esteem isn't as high as it should be!

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Long Distance Lovelorn

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Dear Dr. Love,

I am hoping that you can help me. I have been in a relationship with a guy for several months, and things up to this point have been going very well. Since the start, we see each other frequently, talk every day, etc. We have had our arguments, but nothing really serious.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

Dear Long Distance Lovelorn,

I hear how worried you are that you might lose this man. In reality, this guy has already abandoned you by taking the promotion. He never discussed it with you and simply took the transfer.

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Can't Please Your Partner

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Dr Love,

I enjoy sex immensely however I refrain from having sex often because I have been unable to please my partner. That is to say I have no ability to 'ride' him.

I am now just at the beginning of a new relationship and I don't want this to be a problem. I don't know what to do. Even when I try I seem awful and very unpleasing to both myself and my partner.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

Learning to ride a man isn't different from learning to ride a bike! It takes practice. The first times you tried to ride a bike, I am sure you were absolutely awful.

But, children aren't self-conscious the way adults are. They trip, stumble, fall, get up, and try again and again until they get it right. The same trial and error applies to intercourse.

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Second Thoughts about his Truthfulness

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I am in love with an ex. He and i both are married and he insists on staying in his marriage.

What could be his sole purpose for pursuing me this late in life? He says he still loves me and I him, but I have second thougts about his truthfulness.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You say you have second thoughts about his truthfulness. You need to trust your own inner wisdom. Ask yourself why you feel that he's isn't being forthright with you.

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Torn Between Two Lovers

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I have a girlfriend whom I love and I have another girlfriend whom I love too. How should I choose which one should I go for?

It's kinda difficult since I love them both equally and with pure heart. I want to have them both but practically it's next to impossible. So please enlighten me how to find peace of mind since I can't afford to lose both or even one for that matter!! Thanks

 

Start of Dr Love's Answer

You say that you aren't willing to lose one or both of these women. Since you are unwilling to choose, my first question is why can't have two girlfriends? Are you receiving pressure from one or both of these women to make a choice? Are you leading a double life and lying to them both?

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I Need Help

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I broke a promise to my gf and she took it very seriously. She's a very private person usually and doesn't let people know what's wrong or anything. So the next day she basically ignores me and has a fit that I lied to her. That went on for 3 days her being really mad about that. She's over it now, but it took a lot out of her.

I really didn't mean to and it was a spur of the moment decision. Now we both want to be close again because we're both afraid were gonna lose what we've made together. Here I'll let u read one of the emails she wrote me:


Start of Dr Love's Answer

What a great question! It's obvious you both love each other and I have no doubt that we can get your relationship back on track in no time. Tell her that you want to have many conversations with her, like the ones you had before. Tell her that what you want to talk about first is why she's thinks the relationship is off track.

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Please Help I Don't Know What to Do

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for five and a half months but we don't see each other often because he lives so far away. He tells me he loves me everyday over the phone and last night I rang him to see if I could come down to meet up with him.

He said no I can't because he has to go to college and I thought well it's the six weeks why would college be open so I checked the college site he goes to and end of term was on 30th June and it isn't open.

I have a feeling he might be cheating on me but what should I do?

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I hear how worried you are that he's cheating. My first question is could there be any reason why he would have to go to his college after the term has ended. You say the college is closed. Does this mean that no activities are going on at the campus? Are the gates locked? In other words, is it possible that he could be doing something at college other than taking classes?

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Trust Factor to a Near Zilch

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Hi Dr. Turndorf,

I am currently in a relationship and it's been one year with my girl now.


Start of Dr Love's Answer

You have reason to mistrust this girl.

From what you've said, she lies. So, I guess my question to you is why are you so attached to someone you can't trust. How does this fit with your history? Were you lied to as a kid? Did one of your parents lie to the other?

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Should I Make Her Fess up?

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Hello,

After 27 years of marriage I have realized that my wife has been having sex with others, at times over the years. . . .

She and I had a little too much to drink one night and she spilled out the info. . . . It was quite explicit and believable. . . . She even mentioned a name of someone I have been suspicious of in the past. . .

Next day, however she said she blacked out and didn't remember saying it. . . but the facts are still there, which she denies. . .

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I'm afraid that having her fess up by providing you will all the gory details of all her infidelities won't help you and it won't help the marriage. Instead, the details will feel more like rubbing salt in an already gaping wound. At this point, it hardly matters whether you know every detail of her indiscretions or not.

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Don't Know What to Do

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I have a very important question and I hope you answer it because it is bothering me really bad.

Ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while, about 4 months. My friends have been telling me that he has been saying that he really doesn't like me and that I am ok but he doesn't really like me.

I really love him and I don't want to break up with him at all. . I asked him about it and he said it's not true. I want to believe him but I really trust my friends. I just don't know what to do.

Will you please help me? Please? thanks a lot.

Start of Dr Love's Answer

I can understand why you are upset. Somebody isn't telling you the truth. You need to ask yourself, who would have a reason to lie to me? Your friends? Your boyfriend?

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