Desperate

I know you are heartbroken over this girl that you like. I am concerned to hear you speak of suicide. Promise me that you will not act on your despair by hurting yourself. If you truly feel that you might hurt yourself, you must seek professional help at once (call your family doctor or go to the emergency room. )

Now, as for the situation that 's got you down. Do you realize that by asking me how you can forget this love of your life that you are throwing in the towel before the fight has begun. It sounds like you have been watching and admiring this girl from the sidelines; you haven't even entered the ring yet! I bet if I asked her, she would have no clue that you are interested in her romantically. You have hidden your caring feelings (fearing that if you make an overt declaration of love that you will be rejected. ) Hanging back and hiding your caring feelings may have protected you from being refused by her, but, by not taking a chance and letting this girl know how much she means to you, you are feeling rejected all the same. And, continuing in this way, means that you will never stand a chance of winning her love.

O. K. , so you saw her kissing another guy. The only difference between you and him is that he approached her and took a chance. But, I can assure you that this guy is not as fine a person as you are. You are sensitive and loving and know how to save yourself for just the right person. Why are you so sure that she wouldn't be interested in you? You have qualities that girls like. Just because this girl was kissing another guy doesn't mean that she will be with him forever. You've got her married off already and have convinced yourself that you must forget her.

Girls her age experiment with lots of relationships and I am sure that she will be dating other guys in her not too distant future. Why can't the next guy be you? Instead of giving up on her, why not prepare for Act Two. This time, let her know how you feel about her. Girls like to be courted with words of love and adoration.

Many guys have told me that they have had to fight to win their would-be sweetheart's love. Since I think you lack self-confidence, I am sure that you will wrongly assume that this girl doesn't like you if she doesn't give you the green light immediately. But, girls rarely give a green light without a little fight first. This is because, women have a built-in, primitive biological need which makes them need to feel safe and secure in a man's love before they give themselves away. So, when a woman seems hard to get, she is merely holding back to make sure that the man is not a fly by night, that his caring is real and that he will move heaven and earth to win her and keep her.

So, big guy. If you want this girl, as soon as things start to cool with her current Romeo, why not let her know how you feel about her. Be creative and keep telling her in various ways until your love wears her down. What girl in her right mind could resist such declarations from a sensitive and caring guy like you. I know you are afraid to risk revealing your feelings but, you know the saying, 'nothing ventured, nothing gained. 'We know that if you keep your feelings hidden, you will never have this, or any other girl.

Let me know what happens.