Desperate Woman

What a devastating experience. It sounds like you don't even know why he broke up with you. In essence, he just disappeared from your life, as though he died. But since he's not dead, you naturally don't want to give up hope that he'll come back to you.

What he's done to you is so immature, inconsiderate and unforgivable. I am concerned that even if you could win him back that you would be vulnerable to his killing you off again.

For your own peace of mind, and to obtain closure, you might want to ask him to tell you what happened and to explain why he changed. He owes you this at the very minimum. Keep in mind that whatever his reasons, the way he behaved tells us that he isn't ready to have a relationship.

Let's face it, partners say and do things that let each other down. If you can't talk about these issuesIssues, in the words of the Serenity Prayer, are things you can change, either by making different personal choices and/or by finding ways to work with your partner more effectively. and resolve them; if someone just bottles it all up, without sharing feelings along the way,  it's only  a matter of time before the dam breaks and that the relationship is washed up.  

You really need to ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who treats you so badly. I suspect that you have suffered abandonmentAbandonment is a legal term describing the failure of a non-custodial parent to provide support to his or her children according to the terms approved by a court of law. In common use, abandonment...(Click for full definition.) in your life, so you're used to it. This familiarity makes you willing to tolerate this kind of mistreatment.

When you do talk, I would like to know that you let him know that he'll never be able to have a working relationship with anyone  if he continues this pattern of storing up his feelings and then just ending it.

It will be good for you to say your peace, so that you don't harbor negative feelings and become depressed.

Please let me know how you do.