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I can tell you all kinds of sexual techniques, but since each man is wired differently, you are still going to need to have feedback from him on what he likes. So your best bet is to resolve whatever block he has to telling you what he likes.

If he's afraid to hurt your feelings, then you can help him overcome this problem by telling him,'To be a good lover to you, I need feedback on what feels right for you and what doesn't. This feedback won't hurt my feelings at all. On the contrary, if I don't get feedback, I start to feel like a bad lover and this hurts my self-esteem and confidence. So, help me out here.' If he's afraid to speak, then he can use sounds or hands gestures to get his point across.

You also said that you think that his shyness may be preventing him from telling you what he likes. If this is so, you have a couple of ways of handling this problem. The best way is to get him talking about why he is afraid to tell you what he likes. Is he afraid that you will be offended to find out what he really wants in bed?

Before we even think about getting him to talk about his sexual preferences, we must first get him to verbalize the reason for his hesitation and then resolve the cause of this fear through ongoing discussions. Once you resolve his fear, then he can take his skill to the next level and actually tell you what he wants.

You, yourself, can also try demonstrating what it's like to be sexually open by giving him verbal feedback when he makes love to you. Tell him in words and actions what you want, show him by moving his hands or mouth where you want him to be.

As he sees you do this kind of communicating, it should be easier for him to follow in your sexual footsteps. Let me know how you make out.