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Does She Like Me?

Submitted by jamie on Wed, 02/24/2010 - 12:11pm
February 24, 2010

Question
I took this girl on a date last weekend for the first time meeting her. We went to see a movie (bad choice). It was her idea. We laughed and talked and even made eye contact throughout the movie. After it was over she hurriedly left to the parking lot...It was about 12 and she may have had a curfew. She thanked me and said she had fun, we hugged and she said she would txt me when she could do it again. I let a day pass and then sent her a happy Valentine's day txt she replied the same and then I asked how her day was and received no response.   Another 3 days without contact went bye and she txtd me on Thursday. We exchanged brief catch up txts saying we were both free for the weekend and then I asked if she wanted to chill this weekend and the replies stopped...I am good about reading women but she is throwing me for a loop.   Dr. Love PLEASE help me!   I just need to know if she's interested or playing games so I can move on...   P.S (We met on Facebook and would talk some (where I got her #) but I got serious with another girl and she got a boyfriend. We're both single now but the conversations aren't the same...They're not as relaxed and playful and I  seem to be the one working for her now instead of vice versa like it used to be... lol)   Signed: Dazed & Confused  

Answer
Dear Dazed & Confused,   I hear that you are receiving mixed signals and that you are being driven mad. In the end, no one but she knows what's going on in her mind.   She sounds conflicted about getting involved. She gives you a green light and then backs off. If you notice, each time you come in close, she pulls back. But when you pull back as was the case when you had three days without contact, then she reaches out to you.   She sounds very conflicted about getting involved. She seems to run scared when you come too close. Notice she told you that she would text you when she was ready to get together.   It doesn't sound to me like wants you to pursue her. Each time you do, she runs. Rather, it seems as though she needs to be in control of the contact. I do notice you said that you seem to be doing all the work now when in the beginning it was the opposite.
I think you need to return to the way it was in the beginning and let her be in control of the frequency of contact, when you get together, and so on. Let her feel in charge. That should ease her anxiety, which will enable her to gradually come closer to you.   Let me know how you do. 

- Doctor Love

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