Girl With No Clue Who to Choose

Your question was presented in a very clear way. The path that you must take is equally clear to me.

In reading your letter I hear that if you had a choice you would prefer to be with your best friend. I also hear that you've really never given him up. You broke up with your boyfriend because you say the fire died after a year. While the intense passion of a new relationship may fade, if the love is true, that love never fades in a year or a thousand years. So I have to wonder if you really loved your boyfriend as much as you think you did. Moreover, I have to wonder if your love for your best friend kept you from fully entering the relationship with your boyfriend.

All this being said, I think you are going to need to strap on a pair of you know whats and talk to your best friend. It's time to find out where you stand. It's time to put this relationship to bed literally (meaning you finally become lovers) or put the relationship to bed figuratively by letting him go. You will never be in a position to move forward with your ex or with another man until your entire heart is available.

Moreover, if you don't clarify where you stand with your best friend, you will always wonder and you will never forgive yourself. If you're ready to strap your you know whats on, then you could say something like, "I want to talk to you about our relationship. You have known for some time how fond I am of you. When we discussed this last time, you made it clear you weren't interested in a romantic relationship. I thought I moved on, I tried to move on, but in reality my feelings for you never died. I dated someone else and I think that that relationship didn't really have a chance because I still feel for you. The only reason I'm bringing this up is because lately I've been getting the feeling that you share my feelings. I wanted to check if I'm right. If I'm not, I'll have to find a way of letting you go so. But I don't want to do this without being sure that there's no hope for us."

That pretty much says it all.

I know it takes guts. But as they say, "No guts, no glory." I'm really hoping that you find out that your best friend has come around. You sound utterly adorable and lovable and he'd be crazy not to love you the way you love him.

I really want to hear how this goes for you.