Guy Who Thinks He's No Player

June 15, 1998

Question

Hi I have a problem. I cant seem to find the right girl for me, but i did and I ask her out but she is seeing someone. I like her very much, I am dateless.I am 25 single. I am very respecftful to girls but they just seem to like me as a friend. I just want to meet a nice girl so we can have a wonderful relationship. I am unhappy because i try real hard, but most girls want the players. I the nice guy. I am well dressed everyday, I am sorta quiet and shy. What should i do.

thanks


Answer

It sounds to me as though your self-esteem is shot. You say women want players and you depict yourself as a non-player. In other words, you feel like a reject.

Keep in mind that if you feel like a reject, or non-player, women will read your vibes. We are all attracted to people who feel confident and good about themselves.

So, before you ask another woman out, repair your self-esteem. See my Advice Archives on this subject.

Do self-affirmations and tell yourself what is great about you. Ask your friends to tell you what they like about you. Any time you hear yourself thinking bad thoughts about yourself, stop those thoughts and say to yourself

- Doctor Love


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