A Hairy Situation

Hello Dr. Love,

First of all let me express my congratulations for the articles on this site, they are all very interesting and helpful. But this is not the main reason why I write to you.

I have something to ask you which is a bit or might be unusual to ask. . . how should I put it. . . i have been for sometime with someone, a girl that I get along quite well with and I think soon enough we will come up to that moment when we are going to know each other better and make love.

I'd like to tell you that for me it is the first time. I am not aware though if it's the first for her too. I don't know how to express better what I have to say or not make a fool of myself. . .

I want everything to go well from the first time so I have a little detail to make clear for myself, so the question that I'd like to ask you is how is it normal for a boy to be in the pubic zone of his body, shaved or unshaved, with hair or hairless? It may be a stupid question, but it is important for me to know. I don't want to make a fool of myself in front of my girlfriend, if you can understand me.

Since I have never had the occasion to discuss this topic with someone else, to learn what is the latest views and fashion about this, at least from the point of view of girls, what they expect of a boy to be like, I am asking you how do you consider normal for men to be in that zone?

Honestly, it is somehow equal to me, but I don't want to make a bad impression on my girlfriend. . . I would be grateful if you could give me a piece of advice on this matter. And please tell me also what shaving pubic hair involves (risks, higiene problems, etc).

Thank you