Hard to Make Love

You say that your girlfriend has always experienced pain during intercourse, which isn't normal. She needs to see a gynecologist and make sure that there is nothing wrong with her structurally as well as medically.

Certain types of infections can cause painful intercourse. She would also be wise to see a urologist (specialist of the bladder and kidneys) who specializes in sexual dysfunction. She may actually be suffering from a urethral or bladder infection, or other medical condition, which makes intercourse painful.

If all checks out fine, then she will want to talk to a good psychotherapist or sex therapist to see if emotional issues are affecting her sexuality. It isn't uncommon for a person to experience pain during intercourse following a rape or sexual molestation. Prior abuse and/or conflicts about intimacy can cause the body to shut down or revolt all together.

Working out the conflicts in talking therapy can often solve the dysfunction. Sometimes, exercises may also need to be done in order for the person to learn to relax the muscles of the vagina, which may be constricting and causing pain.

I have given you the path to follow in order to solve the problem. Take the problem step by step, ruling out the medical conditions first and then moving on to psychological issues next, if needed.