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Having Trouble Penetrating Your Girlfriend

Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 09/06/2001 - 8:00pm
September 6, 2001

Question

I am having a problem trying to take my girlfriends' virginity. I am a 5'6' 150 pound black man and she is a 4'10' 90 pound filipino woman. Every time I try to penetrate she complains about the pain of me trying to go further than a few inches.

Does this have anything to do with our racial difference, our size difference, or the size difference of our genitalia?

By the way, I was sexually pleasing her with my finger and noticed that I reach a point where there was a protrusion, sorta like a hard belly button, is this normal? Does this mean that that's the end of her vagina , meaning that I can go no further than that?

Also I think this is the protrusion I am hitting when I try to break her hymen and it could possibly be what is causing her such pain? I hope you can help.........I am very desperate for an answer and satisfaction.


Answer

It's not clear from your description whether this 'protrusion' you speak about is actually her cervix, which would be at the top end of her vaginal canal. If you are feeling a protrusion on the side wall of her vagina, you may be talking about her G-spot, which is a round mass of erectile tissue (the size of a dime or even a quarter) that becomes hard when a woman is aroused.

I would suggest that she get examined by a gynecologist to make sure that there is not growth or hernia that may be actually obstructing her vaginal canal. If she checks out fine, then I would not be quick to assume that the problem you are having in penetrating her is due to your size difference.

Even if you have a very large penis, she should be able to accommodate you. After all, the vagina is made to stretch to accommodate the passage of an infant, which is much larger than your penis.

Barring an anatomical problem, I would then have to say that the problem may be psychogenic (meaning emotional) in origin. If a person is conflicted regarding her sexuality (bi-sexual or gay) or if she has been sexually molested in childhood or later, such emotional conflicts often lead to sexual dysfunction, tightening up of the vaginal muscles, difficult or painful penetration, etc..

So, if she turns out to be physically fine, then therapy would be likely be required in order to resolve the problem.

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