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He Beats You with Belts, Sticks and Phone Wires

Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 08/27/2002 - 8:00pm
August 27, 2002

Question

Dear Dr.Love,

my boyfriend and i have been together for about four months. The first night we had great sex,then my boyfriend started to do weird things,he started spanking me every time before having sex,there is no problem in that because i like to be spanked and it turns me on!

But the problem is in the pain! he spanks me really hard! He doesnt use his hands only, he spanks me with belts, sticks, and phone wires. It really pains me!

I feel a big pain on my ass,i cant sit properly! It has red and some blue spots. I dont want to say to him don't do that because he likes it, he says that it turns him on. and i really love him so i can't say no to him! and i like it in the normal way, so help me please.


Answer

You are being physically abused. The fact that you can't put your foot down and protect yourself is so alarming.

Because your 'love' for him prevents you from protecting yourself, you are in great danger. For this reason, you need to make an appointment with a therapist today.

You are going to need to find out where you learned to link love with pain; why you get turned on by being injured; and why you put another person's needs ahead of yours. The road is long, but you need to start your journey right away.

- Doctor Love

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