February 19, 2007
Question
My husband had very little sexual experience prior to our marriage 2 years ago.
I was married previously with a healthy sexual relationship.
We are in our 40's.
Before my husband and I were married in 2003, we discussed sex. We are both Christian and wanted to abstain until we were married. He did tell me that he hoped I would teach him. Can you direct me to some books or articles which could help me show him how to be more verbal and to help me teach him some technique?
Thank you for any ideas.

Did you notice that your husband said that he hoped you would teach him? He
didn't say that he hoped you would show him videos, articles, and books.
Since you are more sexually experienced; and since no book, article, or video
can express better than you can what gives you pleasure, take a look at
yourself in the mirror. You are his living, breathing, walking, and talking
sex manual!
Because each person's sexual response is different, we all need to develop a
new sexual technique for each new partner. Even if he were I wonder if you
are inhibited to show him?
If you want him to talk, tell him what you want him to say to you. Use the
words yourself. And show him how to touch you by guiding his hand and mouth
where you want him to go. Praise him for doing what feels good to you.
This isn't rocket science. People have been making love since the beginning
of time, long before articles, books, and videos existed! Remember that
lovemaking is just that, an act of love, so guide him, as he's asked you to
do, to express the love he feels for you in the ways that feel best for you.
- Doctor Love
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