He Masturbates Two to Three Times a Day

From what you say, he is giving himself pleasure and then leaves you high and dry! Soon he's going to develop a wrist injury from overuse. This is a major emergency!

He says that his behavior is not due to a lack of desire for you, so then how does he explain why he is depriving you? The bottom line here is that he is depriving you of sex and giving it to himself. His behavior is definately withholding and if you've been reading my column for a while you know that withholding behavior is an indirect expression of angry feelings. People who withhold don't say outright what they are mad at and instead they 'release' their anger by refusing to give what the other person wants.

You have two ways to handle this (no pun intended). You can tell him that many people don't communicate their feelings in words, and instead they express their feelings in action. The action that he is engaging in is withholding sex; and withholding anything from a loved one is an indirect expression of anger. Next ask him to tell you what it is that you have said or done (or not said or done) to make him so mad at you.

If he doesn't take the bait and start talking, then drag his worn out behind and his sprained wrist to couples therapy. You need to get on him and stay on (no pun intended) until he starts talking about what has him so mad. When he starts owning his anger, you will be amazed to see how he comes around in more ways than one.