He Won't Give You Oral Sex

I hear your sense of urgency. But hold on a minute. It's not that you're without sex all together. You aren't completely sexually frustrated, so cool your jets and don't let your feet do any walking. Instead start talking! Tell him exactly what you told me. Then ask him to talk about what his objection is to performing oral sex on you. Listen carefully to what he says. You may be surprised at what you hear! I'm reminded of a couple who came to see me some years ago. The wife had the same complaint as yours. Turned out her husband loved performing oral sex! So why wasn't he performing oral sex on her? He told me privately that she never bathed before and he felt uneasy to perform the act if she was unclean. He didn't know how to tell her this so he simply avoided the entire subject and act!!! So talk to your guy and find out where he's coming from. If cleanliness isn't the issue, then what else could be stopping him from chowing down? Maybe he has an inhibition? Maybe he feels the act is wrong or sinful? Talking will go a long way to helping him loosen up. Maybe he feels inexperienced and doesn't know how to perform oral sex on you. Rather than admitting his lack of skill, he may just avoid the entire subject. If this is his problem, tell him that you will guide him on what feels best. Reassure him that every man has to practically start from scratch and relearn his technique since each partner's sensibilities are so different. If you're still stuck, let me know and we'll find a solution. Promise me that you will bear your frustration and hang in there as we work to resolve the problem.