Help Me, I'm Lost and Hurt

I understand your pain. You are feeling second classed, dropped and unwanted. I can use all kinds of adjectives, but the bottom line is you aren't getting the feeling of being cherished by your boyfriend. If you've been reading my columns for a while, you know that we humans recreate the painful relationships of childhood. Partly because we are creatures of habit, and partly because we want to replay the painful scenarios of our past and achieve a resolution or healing. In order for you to move forward on this issue you need to ask yourself, "What aspect of my childhood am I reliving with my boyfriend?" Then ask yourself, do I stand a chance of achieving a healing of my old wounds with this man? If your answer is, "Not likely," then you know what you need to do. Realize that leaving him will not solve the problem. If you have a need to replay the wounds of childhood, in an effort to heal, you will choose another heartbreaker. The alternative is to enter therapy. Doing so will enable you to heal your wounds in a safe environment. This is far better than restaging your wounds in real life, which is so painful and futile. Let me know how you make out.