January 1, 2002
Question
I am engaged to be married. I have been with my fiance for 3 years. Twice while sleeping my fiance has said his ex-wife's name while dreaming. By the other things he was saying it was obvious that this was a sex dream.
I felt very hurt by this and concerned that perhaps he has feelings for her still. He has reassured me that he doesnt and says he feels really bad about it but has no recollection of the dreams.
Is this somehting I should be concerned about? They have been divorced 5 years. He dated a few people in between meeting me and his divorce. Thank you

I understand that you are feeling threatened. You know, just because a person
is married (or soon to be married) doesn't mean that he/she isn't going to
feel sexual attraction for others (meaning not their life partners).
He may, in fact, still feel sexually attracted to his ex. But, obviously they
were not compatible in other areas, and he divorced her. I wouldn't be so
concerned. His ex. won't be the first or the last woman he feels sexually
attracted to.
He left his ex., and has chosen to be with you, so if you are happy with the
relationship and feel that he is happy with you, just feel glad that he has
chosen you.
- Doctor Love
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