How to Know if He is Clean

You need to ask yourself if your gut tells you that you can trust him. To answer this question, consider whether you have doubted him before and whether you doubt his integrity in other areas of life.

You also want to examine your relationship. Are you happy with each other? Is he responsive to you? Do you resolve your issues? Does he talk to you about what isn't working for him in the marriage or does he brush his problems with you under the rug? In other words, do you know him or is he a stranger to you?

You also want to examine why this woman would have had such high hopes for a life with him. Were they friends? Did he send her the wrong signals? Does he have a hard time setting limits with others? Perhaps if you can get him to study what he may have done to give her the wrong idea, then you will have a clearer understanding of how this happened and how to prevent such a nightmare in the future.

I hope that you are able to resolve this mystery to your satisfaction and that you can return to your life with him.