How to Stop Feeling Worthless

I totally get how hard it is to feel good about yourself when you are being rejected. The problem is that I am afraid that you are stuck in a vicious cycle. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you send out vibes that tell men you aren't worth being with.

You also said that you are afraid to scare men off. I assume you mean that you are feeling so in need of being loved that you are actually 'skunking' men away from you. It's as if you clutch onto a man, seeing him as your psychic life raft. Men can read your sense of desperation and need and they are very likely running away to save themselves from drowning.

What can you do? Stop dating for now. Each failed attempt is driving you deeper and deeper into a pit of despair. Join a therapy group and begin to experience relationships with people who love you just the way you are. This will help you to feel better about yourself and more worthy of love. Also read John Bradshaw's books, which will show you how to heal the empty, unloved child inside yourself.

When you feel better about yourself, when you don't need a man to prop up your anemic sense of self, men will respond differently to you. Believe me, I've seen this prescription work for thousands of women. Love is just around the corner. But you need to love yourself first before someone else is going to find you lovable.