Lady Whose Parents Have Threatened to Cut Her Off

Shame on your parents. You are in an awful bind and there are no easy answers here. Do you really believe that they would cut you off or are they used to bullying you with threats because they know you will give in? In other words, if you have a history of backing down in the face of their tyranny, they may back down if you call their bluff. Often bullies melt when faced with bigger bullies.

In other words, if you were to bully them back and say that you will cut them off, never see them again, never allow them access to their grandchildren, how would they react? Are they willing to lose all this? Or are they simply playing poker because they are sure you will buckle? Only you can say whether they are hot air bullies or if they will follow through. Your parents are very controlling and attempt to use money to force you to follow their orders. Sooner or later, you will need to make your own choices whether they like it or not.

I would be inclined to give them the threat that I mentioned above and see what happens. Mind you, you cannot make that move unless you are willing to bear the consequences of your actions (to be cut-off). If you aren't willing to take this to the mat, they will sense it and you will lose all bargaining power. If your bully back approach doesn't work, I would go to a good family therapist, with your parents and open up a discussion. My best wishes to you and your lover. Please let me know how you make out.