Long Distance Relationship with an Independent Woman

 Oh my poor dear man. I hear that you are feeling rejected. When you say "she would rather read a magazine than talk to you," it's clear you feel cast aside and not important to her.   You and your girlfriend are experiencing two different conflicts. The first relates to where she is in her life right now. She has said that she wants to put her studies ahead of a relationship. You are ready to put the relationship first.   Second, you are experiencing what we call a molar conflict. This relates to a conflict regarding incompatible needs for time together and time apart. It seems that you are a person who likes to spend a good deal of your free time being with/talking with your lover. She is different. She seems to have a higher need for space and time alone. Reading her magazine falls into this category. She likes to have time to herself to pursue her own hobbies and interests.

Here's the point, you are feeling rejected because you are taking her behavior personally. Specifically, you are reading her wish to read a magazine as a sign that she doesn't love you or want you. What if she's just different from you? She can love with all her heart and still be a person who needs more space.   Likewise, when she grows tired because she's working and studying so much, again you are taking this personally. You're forgetting where she is in life and what she said is her priority.   The bottom line is this. If you are going to be with this woman, you will need to change how you interpret her actions. Learning to not take her actions personally will help you feel less rejected.   You will also need to ask yourself whether she's right for you. I would talk to her about what I said. Specifically, I would discuss how she thinks things will be different when her studies are done and she's ready to put the relationship first.   You both want to examine what I think is a higher need for space that has nothing to do with her studies. I say this because when she wanted to read her magazine, she wasn't ending the call to do her studies she was ending the call to take time alone for herself. I suspect she will always want to do this even after her studies are done.
You need to ask yourself if you can accept this about her and not take it personally. I would suggest that you do this work on yourself. I say this because your tendency to feel hurt and rejected will surely rear its head in any future relationships you will have due to the fact that no one will ever perfectly match your needs.   I will go a step farther and say that I have a strong sense that you were abandoned/rejected/neglected in childhood. That may be why you chose to date a girl who's far away. This is a perfect set up for you to feel rejected all over again. The repetition is the unconscious mind's way of helping you relive the old wounds so that you can heal them. Identifying how you were hurt as a child, bringing those feelings to the surface, talking honestly about those hurts with your girlfriend and even asking her for reassurances that she loves you before she ends the call to read her magazine, will help you to heal these old wounds. When the wounds heal, you will feel less rejected by her.   After you've done your own self-healing, including training yourself to not take her actions personally, then and only then will you be in a position to decide whether this woman is right for you. You may decide that you need to find another partner whose intimacyAn intimate relationship is a particularly close interpersonal relationship. It can be defined by these characteristics: enduring behavioral interdependence, repeated interactions, emotional...(Click for full definition.) needs more closely match yours.  

I'll be interested to hear how you make out.