In Love

Dear Dr. Love, I am completely in love with a dear friend of mine. We have some much in common, that it is unbelievable.

No one knows how I feel about him. At times I wish I could tell everyone including my dear sister who is also good friends with him, and not to mention that she is trying to fix him up with some of her single friends. Everytime I hear her say that he would make a good couple with 'so and so'. . . it just hurts so bad.

I haven't worked up the nerve to tell him how I feel due to the fact that I don't want to ruin what is already there(a great friendship). He is constantly coming to my sister and I for advice on girl trouble. And the advice that I offer is not negative at all, but it is straight forward and he knows that he can count on me as a friend.

There have been a couple of times when we have all gone out dancing. . . he makes a move on me and pretends like nothing ever happened. I don't know if it is because he is heavily intoxicated and doesn't remember what he said and did. Although, I tend to remember EVERYTHING when I have had plenty to drink.

And I guess that is the worst part. . . that I remember and he doesn't (well he's never admitted it to it at least). He will dance with me and tell me he is dancing with the prettiest girl and he will stand there and grab my behind while he says that. What is that about?????

I usually just cry myself to sleep thinking of what could be. But I guess I can't find out until I actually express my feelings to him. I guess I am just scared of rejection being that I am not physically 'his type'. I just don't know how I could deal with it (rejection) and face him at the same time. I would be so scared to lose him as a friend.

I guess the advice I am asking is what approach should I take in confessing my feelings to him? I don't want to approach him in a club setting (while getting drunk and dancing).

What do you suggest? I definitely believe that it is time to reveal the truth to him regardless of whatever pain it may cause later on. Pain can always heal, but I will never know until I try.

Thanks for all your wonderful help!! IN LOVE