In Love with Two Women

I've been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for two years and I love her very much. We're compatible in every way that matters. However, I've recently moved a great distance away due to my job and I will likely be here for the next year or more. We talk on the phone daily and see each other for about one weekend a month.   As part of my job, I am working with a former girlfriend, a complete surprise to both of us. We were together for four years and are also very compatible, so compatible, in fact, that we've never once exchanged hostile words. We split on good terms and only because we were both so busy with school, work and career building that we simply didn't have time for the relationship anymore.   While working together, it has become obvious that we both still have very strong feelings for each other. The more we're together, the more I realize how much I still care for her. We've discussed this and while she feels the same, neither of us are willing to go anywhere with this because of my existing relationship.   To complicate things, the former girlfriend has had some very similar life experiences in the decade since we were together. We've both experienced the sudden death of a spouse followed by financial collapse, abusive relationships, the realization that our career paths were wrong and suddenly switching to a wildly different path, serious medical problems, and a few other things I don't care to mention. She's the only person I've ever met who understands what it's like to go through all of those things (we're both in our 30's).   However, my current girlfriend helped me through the aftermath of a lot of that. She was there to support me through a breakdown and the recoveryDiabetes mellitus is a condition in which the pancreas no longer produces enough insulin or when cells stop responding to the insulin that is produced, so that glucose in the blood cannot be absorbed...(Click for full definition.) from it. She doesn't know what it's like to experience those things, but she is there to encourage me and hold me up when I need it.   So, I'm in love with two women and I have no idea of what to do. I've  weighed the pros and cons on each side and they come out balanced, leaving me in an agonizing position. How should I proceed from here?    How do I go about sorting this out? I'm confused and seriously in need of help as it's starting to affect other aspects of my life because I can't concentrate on anything else.      Signed: Conflicted