In Love With Your Brother 's Best Friend

You say that are crossing a line that could be dangerous. It's not clear what line you think you are crossing and what you believe the danger to be if you cross that line. Your fear sounds vague and beyond your conscious grasp.

The reason why you can't identify the true reason for your fear is because the source of your feelings are partially buried in your unconscious. A small fragment of these feelings are breaking through to your awareness, hence your vague sense of danger. What you are experiencing is called 'signal anxiety,' and signal anxiety occurs when unacceptable feelings start to break through to conscious awareness.

What buried, unacceptable feelings could be triggered by your urge to date your brother 's pal? The boy you want to date is so close to your brother that he's almost like a brother to you. Gven how close the two boys are, your unconscious mind is making this link and actually viewing this friend as though he were your brother. To date your brother would be dangerous indeed and surely crossing a line. Because your unconscious mind senses that incestuous feelings are erupting, and it is sending off alarm signals as though you are in danger of breaking some taboo, in this case, the incest taboo.

Keep in mind that incestuous feelings are normal. We all have sexual feelings for our parents and our siblings. When you make peace with these normal feelings, perhaps you won't feel so uneasy about wanting to go after a guy who is almost like a brother to you.