Mr. Nice Guy

You are not crazy. Many women--and men-- are drawn to partners that frustrate, mistreate, abuse and abandon them. This is because, most of us haven't had ideal childhoods. And, the mind seeks to heal old wounds through a repetition process.

First, the mind recreates the childhood scene (by choosing partners that resemble the parent(s) that hurt us; then, the mind tries to obtain a happier ending. Unfortunately, the happier ending never works out, because, when we choose partners who are as damaged as our parents were, we end up being battered in exactly the same ways that we were battered as kids. Through good therapy, we learn how to break this cycle and choose better partners.

So, while many people do seek out abusive parters, there are'healthy' people out there who have worked through their issues to the point that they don't need to keep replaying the bad scenes of childhood and are ready for the happy ending. These are the women you need to find.

You are a jewel, and believe me, there are women who are dying to know you. Keep looking. There are many women out there who are saying to themselves, right now, where can I find a nice guy who won't abuse me!