My Mission Statement for DrLove.com

About This Site

DrLove.com is a public service, offered by renowned relationship counselor Dr. Jamie Turndorf to help people find love and joy in dating, sex, and long-term relationships.

Dr. Turndorf (a.k.a "Doctor Love") is an internationally famous relationship therapist, book author and frequent guest on radio and television shows. She was the first therapist to identify the link between specific wounds suffered as children and the corresponding relationship problems experienced later in life.

Unlike her professional website (AskDrLove.com), this site does not promote Dr. Turnorf's professional services and books. It is simply (and profoundly) a place to ask questions - no matter how personal or embarassing - and get thoughtful, heartfelt answers from someone who knows what she is talking about and cares deeply about people.

Dr. Turndorf's clinically proven Core Therapy™ method underlies the advice provided on this site through over 2500 detailed, indexed and interlinked questions and answers. For more than 25 years, she has researched what makes relationships fail or flourish, and brings that knowledge and experience to these columns.

The Mission of Dr. Love

"I have identified every pothole on the path to love, and I know how to steer you clear of all of them.

Research proves that a strong relationship will improve your health and make you live a longer and healthier life. Not having a strong connection with another person or having a relationship that’s full of conflict is deadly. No kidding!

Don’t fool yourself—no amount of healthy eating, exercise, or supplements can counteract the damage caused by not having strong connections with others, or undo the harm caused by a relationship that’s not working.

It is my mission to help you identify the childhood wounds that invariably lead to problems in your adult relationships. I will help you heal the damage and develop the skills to sustain healthy relationships.

Childhood wounds resurface in our adult relationships in two ways: the partners we choose and the conflicts we experience with our partners. Because our childhood relationships are the psychological blueprint for our adult relationships, we are naturally drawn to life partners who emotionally resemble our parents.

We choose partners who resemble our parents because we are creatures of habit. Familiar pain is actually more comfortable than facing the unknown.

We also choose partners who resemble our parents in an attempt to rewrite the painful scripts of our past in an attempt to achieve what I call a Happy Ending.

The advice I offer at this site will guide you to use your relationship to heal your respective childhood wounds. As these wounds heal, the love that united you initially will shine through, enabling you to reconnect with your chosen life partner.

If you are single, I will help you choose partners who are likely to meet your adult needs.

If the material on this site is new to you, and if you are not finding joy in your love life, you have come to the right place, at the right time. Whether you want to search for a specific problem, browse topics, or just explore the territory, please take some time here to learn about love, because knowledge is your key to happy relationships."

- Dr. Jamie Turndorf