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December 18, 2006

Question

Hello. I would like to say thank you for helping me, Dr. Turndorf.

My mother had a friend from work, and both she and my mom became pregnant at the same time. My mother 's friend had a baby first; female and born in late December. I was born in early January. Her name is Jessica and mine is John.

In school, Jessie knew me and I knew her, but we never really became close friends. I had always liked Jessie. In third grade she moved to a town not far away. I don't know what it is that makes me attracted to her, but I never forgot her.

During this year, I found a forum website that appealed very much to me. After joining, I stumbled upon something. Another member- female, my age, and born in late December. I made sure, by searching all her posts, that it was Jessie. While looking at posts, I found out that she might be moving far away. I can't tell today if she is two towns away or 6 states away.

Know that, even now, I am still young. I will not give out my actual age, but I think it will help if you know just that. My mother, who still works at the same store, had seen Jessie's mom and Jessie in that store. I still see that as a sign.

I contacted Jessie on the forum site. I found out that it was her. I gave my full name, and she didn't reply about it. Either she remembers me and is as scared as I am to say it, or she has forgotten me.

Where do I go, what do I do? Do I love her enough that, if she loved me too, we could be together one day?


Answer

I think it's lovely that you remembered this girl after all these years. There is obviously something very special about her and your feelings for her.

You say that you gave her your full name and she didn't reply about it. I'm not sure if you mean that she didn't respond to your post at all, or that she did respond but made no reference to recognizing your name.

You suggest that she might not have recognized your name or could be as scared as you are to admit that she's a girl that you've liked since you were young.

Why is this scary for you to admit? Are you afraid to look like a fool for having carried a torch for so long? In truth, it's rather charming and endearing. Any woman in her right mind would be swept off her feet to know how faithful and constant your caring is.

You also might like to know that studies show that we are most drawn to people who have positive feelings for us. So, telling her the truth about your feelings is the best shot you have at developing a relationship.

Let me know what happens.

- Doctor Love


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