Ready to Bite His Head Off

August 23, 1996

Question

My boyfriend always rushes into intercourse before I'm ready. I lay there like a block of ice, but he doesn't seem to get the hint. I 'm really frustrated and about ready to bite his head off. Please help. Sue from Quebec.


Answer

I understand your wish to bite his head off. But hang on, if he's headless you won't ever see any foreplay! Besides, your problem isn't lack of foreplay. . . it's lack of communication.

When you say, 'he isn't getting the hint', you're falling into a common female trap: expecting your man to read your mind. This is what I call the Knight in Shining Armour fantasy. You know how it goes: 'If he truly loves me, he will know how to transport me to heights of ecstasy without my saying a word.'

These fantasies are for the birds-- not for the birds and the bees. Your boyfriend isn't a mind reader and since every woman is built differently, your guy can't possibly know what you need unless you tell him.

So, tell him. And fasten your seatbelt.

- Doctor Love


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