Shy Guy

Usually the fear to approach women, hides the fear of rejection. To understand why you might be so afraid of rejection, you need to recall back to your formative years. Were you rejected as a kid? Were you rejected by girls when you were younger. If the answer is yes, you have become 'conditioned' to expect rejection wherever you turn.

Knowing where the fear stems from is helping in resolving the issue because, you can remind yourself that whoever rejected you was only one person. It's not possible that everyone will behave as this ghost from your past did.

Another way to break through this fear is to try the following. Join a hobby or special interest club and make friends with lots of women. Then, practice asking women friends out. The stakes won't be so 'high 'because asking out friends isn't as scarey as asking out potential lovers.

Another thing you might try is a Desensitization Technique. This fancy term is nothing more than gradually thawing your emotional block. How can we do this? One way is to visualize yourself asking a girl on a date. Next, imagine her saying, 'no. 'Next, tap into all your feelings, shame, humiliation, hurt. Feel all the feelings. Did you survive? Now, tell yourself that these horrible feelings, which you survived, are the feelings that you will feel if you are rejected in real life. They are painful, but survivable. Keep practicing this exericise until you feel strong enough to take the chance.

Before you ask a girl out, keep reminding yourself that, the worst that will happen is that she will say 'no 'and you will feel all the feelings that you felt during your private exercises. Once you take the plunge, and start asking women out, you are going to find that plenty of women would like to date a sensitive man like you.

Lot's of luck. Let me know how it goes.