I have been married for 9 years. This is my second marriage, I have 2 children from the previous marriage, now ages 21 and 23. My husband and I have no children together.
Before we were married, my husband told me that he had fathered a child with a girlfriend. He said the child had died at 5 months of age from a fall. He has told me about this baby boy throughout our marriage, and i have in turn shared this information with my family - at times when they asked about our desire to have a child. He has told me of special times he had with the child and shared with me his sadness over the child's death.
Now, 9 years later, when i pressed for information about where the child was buried, and when his birthday was and what day he died, in order to possibly share in his feelings about this, he told me it never happened, that there was not a child, that he had made it all up. He cannot give me a reason as to why he would tell such a lie, and I am having a hard time believing anything he says.
After all the terrible details he shared, about finding the child at the bottom of the stairs with a fractured skull, etc. . . - I feel very creepy when I even look at him. We went to counseling at our church but he was incapable of opening up, agreed with everything I said and didn't share his heart.
So, i gave up the counseling, and he did too. things are pretty terrible here right now and I need some advice. . . can you tell me what you think about why someone would tell such an eerie lie? HELP!!!
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