You Can't Penetrate Your Wife

You have two different problems here. The first is that you can't penetrate your wife when you try to and the second is that you ejaculate before you can even try to enter her. I wonder if the latter problem, the ejaculating too soon, has developed in response to your not being able to enter her or whether the premature ejaculation has been an issue from the beginning.

If you have been ejaculating quickly all along, then it is possible that your wife's body is closing itself off in reaction. If, on the contrary, your premature ejaculation developed in response to not being able to enter her, then we can assume that your problem is secondary to the first problem--not being able to enter her.

There are so many possible causes for this scenario that I need to have a lot more information in order to make a proper assessment. I will ask you certain questions and your answers will give us a better idea of what is going on.

First off, do you engage in foreplay prior to trying to enter your wife. If so, does your wife become wet or not. If there is no foreplay and your wife isn't becoming wet, then that could explain your inability to enter her.

If you are engaging in foreplay and your wife is wet and you still can't enter her, then I would suspect vaginisimus, which is an involuntary contraction of the muscles at the entrance of the vagina. The most common cause of this problem is prior sexual abuse and/or conflicts around sexuality and intimacy. If this is your wife's problem, then she should see a therapist that specializes in sexual dysfunction.

Your wife should also be examined by a gynecologist, since in rare cases, physical abnormalities can interfere with the act of intercourse. Once your wife has resolved her physical and/or emotional blocks, then you both need to work together to make intercourse a reality.

You will need to examine your own thoughts and feelings surrounding the act of intercourse. Premature ejaculation can be caused by unconscious conflicts about being too close to another person.

In some cases, the body will ejaculate quickly in order to avoid the close encounter of intercourse. In other cases, premature ejaculation is simply the result of a skill deficit; in other words, the man hasn't learned how to wait.If this is the cause of the problem, then you and your wife can practice two specific techniques that will teach you how to delay your orgasm.

I have already explained the stop-start and the squeeze techniques in previous articles, so search my website and you will find both techniques outlined. Good luck and hang in there. This problem can and will be solved.