You feel Like Nothing but a Hole

Your sex life sounds dreadful. You sound like nothing more than this man's humping post.

At the very least, he is extremely uneducated when it comes to satisfying a woman. At the very worst, he is selfish and doesn't care.

I have the sense that the most likely cause of his poor bedroom manners is a lack of training. When you confronted him with the problem that you are having, he did ask what you wanted him to do differently. That's a good sign. At least he cared enough to ask.

Here's where you dropped the ball by falling speechless. Don't feel bad. You are in good company. Millions of women are good at pointing out a man's flaws, but when it comes to offering concrete suggestions on how to improve the situation, they are lost.

Read my book, Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First), which will show you step by step how to communicate your needs. The key here is you need to be able to tell him in concrete and practical terms exactly what you want.

Saying I want more passion or sensuality is too vague and general for a man. He needs hands on demonstration. Show and tell him what you like, praise his efforts with words and rewarding sounds, and don't allow him to enter you until you are ready.

One exercise that you might find helpful would be to give him his orgasm, and then have him take the time to learn how to pleasure you with his hands and mouth. Once he has these techniques down, then teach him to use these techniques as foreplay, again delaying intercourse until you are ready.

I know that he said that you take too long to have your pleasure. It is true that women do take longer to become aroused and to achieve orgasm. Again, a man must learn how to wait, which takes practice.

I think that he may be hurrying into intercourse because he can't hold off long enough to give you a decent amount of foreplay. If this is true, search my archives under 'premature ejaculation' and learn the techniques for teaching him to delay his own orgasm. Let me know how you make out.