You Told Him Not to E-Mail

You have fallen into a trap that destroys many relationships. You fell into a combination caretaker/mindreader role and then acted upon your own self-assigned mission.

What do I mean? First you assumed, without checking, that your boyfriend wanted to have the last days of school without talking with you. That's the mindreading part. Then you acted as his caretaker and gave him this wonderful space that you figured would make him so happy. Meanwhile, what happened? I am quite sure that he misinterpreted your behavior and thought that you were giving him the brush off. That would explain why he ignored you when he saw you.

He felt hurt and dumped by you and so he gave you the cold shoulder back. No relationship can work when one partner acts on his/her assumptions about what the other needs without first checking. You need to become aware of your caretaking tendencies and watch yourself like a hawk.

Each time you are about to make some helpful offering to another person, check with him/her to make sure that your offer is even wanted. Check, check and recheck.

Meanwhile, you have to mend some fences. Explain to him what I told you and tell him that you are going to be vigilant to not act on your caretaking and mindreading tendencies from here on in.