Do Women Intentionally Shy Away From Talking to Someone New?

First of all, you are not alone. Unless you are a balls out (no pun intended!) extrovert or someone with an overblown ego it is normal to be skittish in approaching someone who seems unavailable. Nobody likes being rejected!

In fact, observational studies reveal that when it comes to making the first move, men don't approach women before they receive what I call Green Lights, which are signals that the object of your interest is available and receptive to the approach.

The growth move for you is to feel the reticence but not act on it. In this case, acting on the fear is the act of inaction. To freeze up, avoid the one you want and go toward someone who is approachable but not the real object of your desire.

I say to you, feel the fear and go for the one you want. Keep in mind that you're not making a death defying high wire leap. Just approach the woman of your desire and then proceed systematically. Once you engage her in conversation, then you will get a sense of whether Green Lights are being sent your way or not. Don't forget, women are attracted to men who are persistent. In fact, women are wired to play hard to get, to weed out the unsuitable suitors and draw in the men who are willing to go the distance for them. These behaviors are instinctually based, driven by primitive biologically programmed drive to insure the survival of the species. Men who are persistent, trigger a sense of safety in the woman, a feeling that they are more likely to be faithful and reliable providers to their wives and offspring. So, don't hang back. Go after the girl of your desires. Be persistent. Remember, rejection won't kill you.