Girl Who is Too Tight for Intercourse

You don't need a doctor to stretch your vagina. You aren't too tight for intercourse, you're too UPTIGHT for intercourse. You need to relax. If you noticed you said twice that you panic when you try to insert a tampon or a finger. What do you think happens when you panic? Your muscles constrict. And that includes the muscles you know where! It is fear that causes tightness and pain.

All virgins are small. And even the smallest of virgins are able to fit a penis. The body is an amazing instrument. When a woman becomes excited, the vagina naturally balloons and stretches to accommodate a penis. Don't forgot that the vagina is made to stretch to give birth to a baby, which is far larger than a finger, tampon or penis! It's not good to keep saying you're small. Saying this is like a mantra that only tightens you with fear.

The problem here isn’t size but anxiety! I wonder if you are anxious in other aspects of your life or only in the sexual arena? Is your family very uptight sexually? Do get excited? Do you masturbate? Were you ever sexually violated?

I know you say you want to have sex, but I wonder if on another level you are scared to death. Sit for a moment and reflect on the questions I asked. Also ask yourself what sex means to you. Your mind is making unconscious associations that are scaring you. Are you afraid of becoming close? Are you afraid of growing up? Are you scared of being emotionally naked and vulnerable or of loving and losing? Ask the questions and see what comes up for you.

As you identify and resolve the true sources of your fear, your body will naturally relax.

When you are more relaxed, then we can move on in! I know this sounds like a military invasion!!!!

Seriously, when you are ready, close your eyes, deep breathe and imagine the muscles of your vagina distending and letting go. Visualize your capacity to expand to the size of a baby. Lubricate your finger, exhale and insert your finger.

Relax. You are fine!