My Fiance Neglect

November 5, 2010

Question

I am in a 2 year old relationship. I love my wife to be so much. However I have two issuesIssues, in the words of the Serenity Prayer, are things you can change, either by making different personal choices and/or by finding ways to work with your partner more effectively. . One, she never writes love sms to me unless she wants something from me. Two she does things like turn her phone off and she does not mind what and how I feel ie, when I call she won't even talk about it. Now my feeling is that no matter how much she says she loves me, I don't think she knows what she is saying. Please help. What do I do about this?


Answer

Before you decide what to do, you need to understand why you want to marry someone who is so manipulative and unresponsive to you. She only sends loving messages when she wants something. That's awful! She also doesn't care how you feel about her turning off her phone.

You said she uses the words I love you, but she doesn't know what she's saying. By this I think you mean that her words are empty. Her actions don't feel loving.

You aren't getting the right feeling from this woman. You need to find out why you're so attached to her. Why are you more drawn to the empty well, fighting to get blood from a stone?    Read my answer to the second question of this week entitled Jekyl and Hyde. The answer I have given to this woman applies to you. You are clearly replaying a relationship from your early life in which you were not attended to and treated lovingly. You are trying to make that old relationship right. My Relationship Rescue Kit will show you how to break free of this pattern and see to it that you are treated with love and respect. Take care. You deserve far more!     

- Doctor Love


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